RIP Daddy

Now theres is one aspect of father daughter relationships that I have been saving for the end because it would the hardest one to write for me. That reason is because that is how I live today.

How does someone deal with the lost of their father?  Losing your father is one of the hardest things anyone as to deal with especially if they were a big part of your life, like mine was. The only advice I can give you to anyone dealing with this is take it a day at a time.  It seems like it will never get better and it might not but you have to try. Everything can not go back to what it was but it is possible to make things better.

Everyday I think about my dad and ask myself am I making him proud. That alone makes me never want to give up. He is with me every choice I make and everything I do. I know that even though he is not next to me physically he is watching over me everyday. It is kinda cool to think about because I know he would not want anything bad to happen to me again so I know I am protected from whatever life throws at me. Though I cannot play my dad and I's  little game of saying "guess what?" and answering with "what?" and then ending with "I love you. " I know that he is showing that he loves me everyday!

But this issue of losing your dad is something that I have learned to deal with and if you are struggling with that I am more then happy to listen. I know I like talking through things in my head and having someone to listen helps me. I would love to hear stories about everyones dads! So email me at vfarina@eastern.edu!




On a less serious note if you deal with a loss of anything.. maybe a hobby check out this blog.

I enjoyed my time writing even if no one reads this blog I had a good time typing!

Thanks
Tori

Dads, You are still important!

Hello everyone this week's post is reminding you about all the father daughter relationships out there and how important each father is their little girl.

Father's and daughters are the purest relationship two people can share. A father is someone that the daughter can look up to. They can be the only person in a girl's life or a not so important part of their lives. When you look on dictionary.com it says a father is :a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider. Daughters need a protecter in their lives and who better to do it then their own fathers? I love hearing about different father/daughter relationships and seeing what they have done in their relationships. 

So in case you are tired of reading what I have to say below are several links about fathers and the importance of them. 

Our first link is about the influence that fathers have on their daughters. 

The second link is using psychology about a father daughter relationship. He does this by talking about his own experience. 

The third link is 29 reasons that there is no other bond like a father/daughter bond.

Then our last link is how to strengthen this special bond. 

That is it for today. The next post will be about my father daughter relationship. I hope you keep reading and and enjoy it all. 

Adopted dads

Hey everyone this week is about guys and adoption. This is a really nice that parents will take in kids that are not their own. It takes a lot of guts to do something like that. I unfortunately do not have an close experience with adoption. So their is a link about different successful adoptions stories.  There is one story that every one is fimilar with and that is Despicable Me. Gru adopted three young girls and though he was going to use them for an evil plan he ended up being the worlds best dad in the end.

I hope you enjoy the stories below. If you have any stories about adoption please share them and tell me.My blog posts will be ending soon so it there is anything you would like to talk about let me know and I will be gladly talk about those issues. I think that it woudl be awesome to hear from you guys. So



Adoption Stories :

Father/Daughter Activities

Hello everybody! This post is on the happier note and talking about father/daughter activities. It is important that a father and daughter can put time aside and hangout while doing something they both love to do. To set aside this time with their kids means you can get to know who they are and grow close relationships with your kids. This will be important so kids can come to you for their problems and lead them in the right direction. 

Most men think it is a nice idea and will take their daughters out for a movie night. So it can be a little father/daughter date and it is something most dads will take their daughters to do and it is fun to take their daughters out. After you have the memory of going to see the movie. 

Making memories will always be important to have. Someday the father won't always be there so to have the memories is something that the daughter can remember them by.  It is up to the father to make good memories. 

On the side there is a poll to take and it is your favorite father/daughter activity. 

That's it for now! 

Love 

Tori 

"Dads" Part 2

And I am back with part two of this blog. This part is about "dads" who come in and out of their daughters life and try to be the best role model but then leave for months at a time. That daughter does not have the constant role of a father and no one to look up to.

Not having the father as I have mentioned before is really hard. When you have a father that jumps in and out of your life it is even worse because it is like a tease. You have your dad sometimes and can build a relationship with him but then he just disappears.  These types of situations can be very hard one girls because they do not know if they can trust guys in general because of what their dad has done. Your dad is usually one of the first men that you trust, and when you can not trust your own dad then how could you wrap your head around trusting another guy in general.

This can be a traumatic experience for some girls and they would just not know what to do. I think at the end of the day a father should realize how his decisions effect others especially their daughters.

Thats is it for this week!
Love
Tori

"Dads" Part 1

I purposely used the quotes around the word dad. This post is a two part post and the other half will go up next week. This part is about "dads" who step into father figures in daughters life and the child is not biological his. Then the second half of the post will be "dads" who are fathers and are apart of a girl's life when they want to be.

This part is about dads who will father children when they are not even his. It is amazing to see fathers who jump into kids life for the sake of them being safe and living a happy life. Like I have mentioned before the men who decide that they are going to help kids no matter what the situation is it is awesome to see men doing something to selfless and only thinking about the kid's life. To be out there and help kids in those situations is really great for them because we you should be a role model for them. We all have had out role models and at some point they were even your mom and dad. A dad does not have to biological father. It is the man who takes care of you when you need it.

One good example of this "dad" is Philip Banks on the show Fresh Prince of Belair. Philip was will's uncle and through the TV series you see that Philip is a strong man in Will's life because that becomes his father.  Philip acts like a father by discipling Will and showing him the right direction in life. He also gives will hope that he can make it through anything. Inspiring children like that is important because who knows what  those kids might grow up to be.

SO thats all for this week make sure you come check back next week for new stuff! Next week is "Dad": Part 2. Thankks

Love you tori

Step Dads

AND I'm back! Today's blogs is about step dads. I don't personally have a step dad and so I will share stories about my friends step dad's.

So I have one friend from high school who does not live with his mom but his step dad. So his story was that his mom and her son with Man#1 then things with his mom and Man#1 did not really work out. So mom went on the hunt for another guy and found Man#2. They all had a nice life together and then the mom started doing things like drugs and alcohol. So that caused mom and Man #2 to split while the mom got her things sorted out. This caused the son to have to live and move again but he really didn't like his new school. He wanted to go back and live with his step dad because he liked that school better and it was a safer environment for him. So while his mom was in rehab he lived with his step dad. To this day the mom is out of rehab but the son does not live with the mom he still lives with his step dad.

This story is a upsetting story but it does have a positive outcome. This type of step dad completely filled a strong father role in my friends life. He was an awesome step father and it really helped out with this child who was not even his. It takes a certain type of person to do that and Man #2 was strong enough to handle that situation and supply for that kid.

Though I do not have any crazy stories about bad step dads I have had heard some stories about men who are step dads that do not even talk to their new step daughters. That is not a good thing because that daughter or son does not have that need of a father filled. Every girl wants to have an Ariel and King Neptune relationship.

So that is it for today everyone I can't wait till next week and I will have a new topic for you guys! I have a quote for you guys to close this entry:

"It takes a strong man to accept somebody else's children and step up to the plate another man left on the table...."                       -Ray Johnson

Okay I'll talk to you later you guys
Love
Tori